Newsflash: Therapy Isn’t for “Broken” People

Let’s get something straight right now.

Therapy is not reserved for people who are falling apart. It’s not just for those in crisis. And it’s definitely not just for people with “issues”—whatever that’s supposed to mean ***insert eye-roll***.

Because of third party billing, therapy is mostly leaned on for damage control—something you turn to only when things get bad enough. Something you keep quiet. Something you hope no one has to know about.

Stop that. It’s wrong.

We live in a culture that loves to split people into categories: functioning vs. flailing, strong vs. weak, weird vs. normal, wrong vs. right, and my least favorite, good vs. bad. But here’s the truth that fewer people have the capacity to see: we are all both. All people swing between strength and overwhelm, insight and avoidance, thriving and barely hanging on.

Therapy just recognizes that truth. Safely. Honestly.

Holding it all together is not the same thing as healing. Looking ok — is not the same thing — as…. whatever it is people are trying to fake being — I don’t even know what to call it anymore — because it’s a lie — and the people who’ve done at least some work — can usually see right through it.

Your ability to fake “it” (whatever “it” is for each person) isn’t the measure of what makes you special — can’t you see? You are special. I know the world demands this act from all of us. I know it all too well. But what if… there’s actually so much more.

It's not about being broken.

It’s about being human—and deciding to be deliberately awake to that fact.

So no, you don’t have to be a mess to go to therapy. You just have to be honest.

You don’t need to have “issues.” You just need a willingness to look closer.

Therapy isn’t just something you do when things fall apart.

It’s something you do when you’re ready for something more.